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Duty’s Disconnect vs Glory’s Gift

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Duty is a word that has been accepted by society as a strong and powerful word, when all it really means is to do what you are supposed to do…nothing special.  The issue is doing something strictly because it is your duty is boring.  It slows down life and gives it very little meaning.  Now, I don’t think the word “duty” is necessarily a negative word, but it has slowly become detrimental to the things we do in our lives.

Basically there are two reasons why we “do things”: 1) Because we have to and 2) Because we want to.  There are times where what we have to do and what we want to do align perfectly and there are times where they are completely against each other.  Basically, “duty” is doing what we have to do but without the “why”—which is how we are actually FULFILLED by what we do. When we are doing our “duty”, we are just going through the motions, so it is easy to disconnect.  When you enter in the gift of “glory” (another way to look at your “why”), that disconnect goes away.

Just as the word “duty” has become more and more prevalent in today’s society, the word “glory” has experienced the opposite. According to the $500 Millionaire, this is because of its religious connotation, but like most views of society as a whole, that is just plain dumb. “Glory” is a word that has not been in my life in a way that it should be.  The actions that I take are usually the right actions morally, but that’s just because they are the right things to do.  Until now I’ve spent very little time understanding why I do the right thing.  But, the REAL reason why…is to give “glory” to the person or relationship I am doing it for. The $500 Millionaire has given three examples below where this concept could help or hinder our growth.

The key to showing “glory” is through genuine gratitude.  Being grateful is MUCH more than just saying thank you.  To show true “glory” to those we care about is to be truly grateful for them.  More than show it, we need to know it.  I have always thought that gratitude was a belief of mine, and I would have told you I was always grateful. But, the $500 Millionaire showed me how glory and gratitude collide.

GLORY [glawr-ee, glohr-ee] noun, plural glories

  1. very great praise, honor, or distinction bestowed by common consent;renown:
  2. something that is a source of honor, fame, or admiration; a distinguished ornament or an object of pride:
  3. adoring praise or worshipful thanksgiving:
  4. resplendent beauty or magnificence:
  5. a state of great splendor, magnificence, or prosperity.
  6. a state of absolute happiness, gratification, contentment, etc.:

Husband/Wife or Boyfriend/Girlfriend.

How many times have you done something for your significant other and the reaction is not what you were expecting?  Or even worse, how many times have you done something nice and they actually got mad? Fortunately I have been blessed with a VERY understanding girlfriend but I, like most guys, am prone to make that mistake.  The $500 Millionaire is not suggesting that we don’t do what should be done.  For example, we shouldn’t stop doing “good” things for our significant other to show we deeply care if we aren’t getting the reaction we expect. The mistake we make is that when we do it, we don’t truly understand WHY we are doing it.  We do not take a second to reflect.  We are not doing it just to do it, but doing it because we want to…because we are grateful, and because we care.

Now I am going to pick on guys here for a second. As guys, we are wired to naturally mess this up because we have to consciously think about these actions of showing our gratitude and care.  Most females tend to naturally do this, where this is something we as men have to purposefully do.

Let’s look at some of the things that we are supposed to do and I want you to think…“Am I doing this because as a boyfriend/husband, this is my duty and it is just my job to do it?”  OR “Are am I doing it because of how grateful I am to be with my girlfriend or wife?”. Why do you hold the door for her, take care of her, get her flowers, or celebrate an anniversary?  If you EVER get sick of doing these things, it is not because she is ungrateful but instead, because you are ungrateful.  These actions should be done for the “glory” of your significant other, not because you feel you have to do it.  Again, this is one thing that I feel females naturally do better than males, and causes a major disconnect in most relationships.  Females, just because I am ragging on the guys here, don’t think you are off the hook.  You need to understand that this is something that comes natural to most of you and patience/understanding is a valuable attribute to focus on during these times.

Entrepreneurship/Employee/Manager

The employees that I have had over the years have been on all different levels of what I would deem a “good employee”.  What I have found, though, is that no matter where they are on that scale, they share a common trait with other people at their same level.  The “BEST” employees on this scale are the ones who focus on the “glory” of their job over the duty of it.  An “OK” employee will make the calls they need to make and will do the things they need to do.  They are acting out of their “duty”.  The “BEST” employees I have EVER had, in any role from Administration to Sales, do what they need to do because they are grateful for what they are doing and the team they are doing it with.  They do these tasks for the glory of their team, of their company, of their boss, and of their cause.  These employees who understand “glory” are the ones who will take the company to the next level and, as an employee, will constantly find fulfillment in their job. Doing our “duty” at work or in our company is not a mistake.  The mistake is that we do not take a second to reflect on why we do it.  We are not doing it just to do it but are doing it because we want to…because we are grateful…because we care.

As an entrepreneur, how many times have you started a business because you thought it was a good idea? And, how has that worked for you?  How about all of the times you started a business because there was a MAJOR need and you had to fix it? If you have only had the first experience that is probably why your business is not taking off.  If you have EVER had the second experience…be grateful.

As a manager, as you are trying to motivate your team, how much of that is in a selfish mindset because you want to do what will help you grow versus what will help your team grow.  Make sure that you are constantly doing things in the glory of your team, and you will find that your team will go to war for you without blinking an eye…be grateful.

Religion

Uh oh, The big bad “R” word! As a Christian, the $500 Millionaire talks in terms of God but if you cannot see past that word, insert whatever word you want so you can understand the point here.  The $500 Millionaire is amazed at how many people go through the motions as a “Christian”, or really any religion, based of fulfilling their duty to God rather than actually giving Glory to God.  Going to church on Sunday and then living the rest of the week against everything you “stand” for is an outrage.  This is one area in life where doing it out of “duty” doesn’t fool anyone but yourself.  I mean at least holding a door for someone might make them think you’re nice!  As you have read in my past posts, if the word God is not something you believe in, call it the universe or call it nothing, but whatever you do, take time to reflect on why you are doing this.  Why are you waking up in the morning to go to Church on Sunday?  Why are you reading this long confusing book?  Why are you praying?  The mistake is not that you are doing these things, The mistake is that you are not taking a second to reflect on why you do it.  I do not just do it just to do it but I do it because I want to…because I am grateful…because I care.

Glory does not just show up for most people.  Instead it needs to be something that is focused on and reflected on.  I would like for you to take some time today and reflect on your actions and see where you are acting strictly out of of “duty” and where you are acting out of “glory”.  I would bet that if you focused more on acting out of “glory” for your friends, family, loved ones, co-workers, companies, and God, you will find that life is much more satisfying and much more fulfilling.

Understanding why you are doing what you are doing is what makes life more enjoyable.